My Spouse Just Asked for a Divorce - What Do I Do?

7016254499 • October 8, 2024

Here are some suggestions for you.

Divorce is a deeply emotional and difficult process, and it is normal to feel overwhelmed. Here are some steps that might help you navigate the situation. 

1. Give yourself space to process emotions:
      •     Take time to process what you’re feeling. Shock, sadness, anger, and confusion are common reactions.
      •     It can be helpful to speak with a therapist or counselor to help you sort through your emotions.

2. Communicate with your spouse:
      •     When you’re ready, have a calm conversation with your spouse. Try to understand the reasons behind their                             decision.
      •     If emotions run high, consider using a neutral space or even a mediator to facilitate the conversation.

3. Seek legal advice: Contact Michael H. Berg, Esq., or Joy A. Pearson, Esq., our lawyers who practice family law who can                         help you understand your rights and what to expect from the process. Getting professional guidance is                                   important.

4. Take care of practical matters:
      •     Consider joint assets, debts, and financial responsibilities. You might want to begin organizing important                              documents, like financial records, mortgages, and other assets.
      •     If you have children, start thinking about how to approach custody, visitation, and support in a way that                                  prioritizes their well-being.

5. Find support:
      •     This is a challenging time, so don’t hesitate to lean on trusted friends or family for emotional support.
      •     Divorce support groups or individual therapy can be helpful for finding a sense of community or guidance                              from people who understand what you’re going through.

6. Take care of yourself:
      •     This is a draining time emotionally, physically, and mentally, so prioritize self-care as much as you can.                                     Sleep, eat well, and try to maintain routines or hobbies that keep you grounded.

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